I knew we were having some problems but I didn't think they were so bad that my husband would leave. He said he needed time to clear his head but 3 weeks later he said he isn't coming back. He's already took our pictures down and stopped wearing his ring. I'm devastated and don't know what to do.
I'm so sorry. Remember to breathe. You are loved by many people - do not forget that. Take care of your needs - it is easy to overlook them in general and even easier when you are feeling hurt. Take this time to think about what you want to GET in a marriage and what you want to GIVE. Then breathe some more. Our thoughts are with you!
Keep BUSY. Do something new. Set a personal goal( lose 5 pounds, read 3 books, run 1 mile,etc.) These will keep your mind off IT. If there is any way possible, go to at least a couple of counseling sessions. Many times, insurance pays for it. Do something for someone else( elderly, soup kitchen, etc.) This will help you gain a little joy! Lastly, get some kind of regular physical exercise, even if you have never done this before. This will help you to sleep and to physically gel a little better. Yoga is very good, and calming, and you will find support there. You are worthwhile!
I am sorry this happened. See a Lawyer ASAP and get your own bank account and credit card account (if you use cards). Many have had their spouses "clean out" the bank account. Split whatever money is there now or consult a Lawyer about this and other finances.