I have been separated from my husband for almost 2 yrs which I felt I was blindsided by him. I am still very hurt after giving myself to him for a total of 17 yrs. We have a 6yr old as well. After he left he moved in with his now gf who he refuses to claim 3 weeks after he left and her divorce was final. I knew her, let her in my home and my child's life. Sometimes he takes our child around her but hides it and tells her to hide it as well. He sees our child 1 day a week his preference. I don't know how to let go. I don't know how to communicate with someone who refuses even about visitation with our child. I feel so unheard and dismissed unless he has no one to vent to. he says he is sorry, loves me and can't fix himself. I don't know how to fully move on. I need his help financially as well so I am afraid to rock the boat. I am so lonely and sad everyday but I do get help in therapy. My few friends do not really understand but try.

I'm so sorry, Jessica. I guess I got lucky. I had lost so much respect for my ex by the time he took up with his girlfriend that it didn't hurt me for me. It hurt for my girls. So I know what you mean about you not wanting them to be around that backstabbing woman. My ex does what he wants and hides it from me as well. I wish I could give you real hope but I am kind of where you are... only without the true heartache. If it helps, you deserve so much better than to be cheated on. And with someone you knew... he has acted like a coward. And you deserve better than that. Try and be brave for your daughter. She is watching. Today at lunch, my girls told me how happy their dad seems (they're only 3 & 5) and instead of letting them know how easy it is to be happy when you're a selfish thoughtless *******, I smiled and said I'm really glad. And then I asked them what we could do that would make them happy. Lol All they wanted was to get in my bed and watch an episode of Gilmore Girls. Things will get easier. I promise you. Even heartbreak eventually loosens its hold. Just please try every way you can to show your little one that mama can do this. Take care.

Thank you very much. I am trying my hardest for my baby. She deserves a healthy mom. It is a hard battle each day. I miss her dad so much but I know for my own sake and hers I have to let go.

I feel for you because I understand what you're going through. I happened to be a relationship transformation coach and my expertise is helping women with relationship patterns and issues. A simple exercise that you could do is sit up on a chair in a quiet room for 15 minutes and do some simple breathing exercise, concentrating on your breathing and breathing only. When thoughts come up don't fight them, just observe them as an outside without judgment. This exercise is a great beginning. Try it.

If you haven’t started divorce proceeding yet, the process will reveal his many selfish facets which will definitely facilitate severing ties with him. Parenting classes may be recommended in your district which will provide more insight into your family’s rights.
Separation is a limbo that allows one or both parties to control and/or be controlled. Protect your family not be blindsided again. If his life were to be upset, he would vent in your direction. Independence is great for all!
Wishing you and child the best.

I am the same. You know what I do I go Pinterest to search quotes for inspiration sometimes helps. But most of the time I feel like you.

Jessica please text me, let's talk (502) 465-6486

I would love to talk. when is a good time to text

I’m so sorry to see so many women in the same boat. My husband of 13 years left me for another woman on our daughter’s birthday which was also 2 days before our anniversary vacation. When I stopped asking him to come home 2 weeks after the fact he started to harass me. A month after he left, he came and tried to force himself on me and threatened to kill me (as he has many times before). The police were called and he faked a heart attack to prevent being arrested. The next day, he took all the money, emptied out our safe deposit boxes and checks himself into the hospital the day of every court date to evade a hearing. I’m struggling financially and he doesn’t care to contribute even though we have two kids. I feel so hurt, scared and confused.

I have been having some difficulty coping with the breakdown of my marriage. I constantly annoy my ex husband who has now moved on and has a partner and I hate myself for it. He now hates me calls me mental and that I’m not right I’n my head. But I’m just consumed with jealousy. Any tips to help me deal with this better would be so welcome. Thanks Helena.

I have been having some difficulty coping with the breakdown of my marriage. I constantly annoy my ex husband who has now moved on and has a partner and I hate myself for it. He now hates me calls me mental and that I’m not right I’n my head. But I’m just consumed with jealousy. Any tips to help me deal with this better would be so welcome. Thanks Helena.

Feels sad JESSICA after hearing about you. Though your situation is quite difficult it is not that difficult also to move on. It is great that you are taking therapy. Sometimes some situation is not in our hands. We do not know what the future has stored for us. My friend as going through the same situation as of yours. She took the help of a psychic like Voyance Direct. She wanted to know is their hope that his husband will come back to her or not. My friend told her problems to the psychic and the psychic advice on the problem. Even you can take help if you want to know about it.