After 9 months of dealing w/malicious behavior of an angry dry drunk, I just started hating him because he shared another vindictive plan with our 21 yo daughter before contacting his attorney. Last night she couldn’t sleep after he told her that he wouldn’t pay the mortgages and foreclosure takes a while. Regardless of our children’s ages, a mother’s response is to protect our children.
Your offer seems reasonable to me, but legal advice would be wise. I would consult your local Women’s Law Bar to proceed carefully.
The parent who remains composed and informed will be able to make the best decisions for the family. It will be challenging at times, but you can do it. Share your emotions with a therapist or pastoral counselor (often free). Seek out a divorce group; I found DivorceCare in my area thanks to this site. You deserve to treat yourself daily with a sweet, a nap w/the kids or kudos to yourself for being the best you can be in this temporary situation. Best of luck.
Thank you, E. We don't even have our heads above water as far as money goes. We don't have the money to pay any sort of retainer fee for an attorney unfortunately. I need to look for someone who would be willing to take the case pro bono.
Our predicament sounds simular. Mine came home in May and told me he was taking a job out of state. From June to now, my husband has seen our children (ages 12 & 10) 4 times. He has been with them since birth, how does a person go 4 and a half months and not see his children.
From June to September he paid some bills, but in October it all stopped. NO support for our daughter's in 6 months, and I filed for child support even before I filed for divorce.
I was not working when he left, I jumped from job to job, went to various charities just to keep electric and water going.
We had a electrical fire in our furnace and we were without heat for 2 and a half months. My husband did not offer any financial help, nor did his parents. He had not thought or concern for his children health safety or welfare.
Contact, if you have not done so, country, community and churches for help and support.
I hope you find the help you need.