Ami: Sorry all this happened. My ex moved across the country back in 2009 and our daughter also moved far away to college and it was just me and the cat for 2 years. I was lucky to have met someone two years after the divorce, while my cat was dying and I had to put her to sleep (which cost hundreds of dollars adding to my credit card debt), I was sobbing. It took a while for my finances to improve and to be up to getting another cat. I hope you find a job soon and can get back to having a Lawyer/divorce and to have a better life. It takes a couple of years to move on emotionally from a divorce for most. Best wishes.