i am a christian myself but what i hear is alittle unsettling. there is no proof that these things that happened were God's will, not even in the Bible... unless taken out of context. i will tell you for sure that she will not follow the faith "to the letter" for long because she WILL mess up, or go into unbelief. it is our nature. but she will rebound. have you ever asked here why she believes in god and from what logic she continues in faith? it would be good for both of you. Also, encourage her, because if she is truly being a christian bro, YOU SHOULD BE IN FOR THE JOYRIDE OF YOUR LIFE! A christian wife should perform acts of service, because jesus said himself that a servant is the greatest in heaven. a christian wife also HAS A DUTY to LOVE her husband. she has no biblical premise to desert you because it is written that the non-believer (wich would be you in this case) is sanctified by the believer AND DIVORCE IS FORBIDDEN!... unless you cheat on her that is. if she is not pouring her love upon you then she is not living a christian life because according to the bible, when you marry, your body is no longer your own but you share it with your spouse (this also speaks of sexual duty) and you are to love your spouse as yourself. you are also a pretty emotionally secure person because you have admitted insecurity which everybody has some insecurities. Let her know that you feel distanced and that she is not giving you as much love. If she is getting all her love from god and not you she is neglecting her spiritual duty. There is nothing in her beliefs to stop her from having fun, there should be really nothing to cause wound to your marriage unless there is an issue aside from her beliefs... unless she has gone into some cultish belief claiming to be christian. or unless you really liked to watch pornos with her or it meant ALOT for you to have her drink alcohol with you there really should be no problem. try to understand her faith because it is not too far fetched. I recommend 2 books for you, i would buy them myself and send them to you if you wanted to give me your address over email, but in the case that i may be some terrorist or a sicko trying to get your address for some scheme im not gonna ask for it but if your short on cash, maybe we can figure something else out. anyways here are the book titles "5 love languages" the best book for married couples i have ever seen and "The Case for Christ" by Lee Strobel, a former athiest who sought out to disprove christianity himself. e-mail me if you get this message, hope you do and good luck with your marriage i will pray for it.
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A year ago my wife and I had a stillborn baby @ 24 weeks, more recently my wife suffered a miscarriage at 12 weeks. Clearly both incidents were extremely upsetting for both of us, my wife has turned to the church for comfort and support and is now well on the way to becoming baptised and following the faith to the letter. She tells me that she is at peace as it was god's will and he is the all powerful. She has got a lot of emotional support & continues to so. I unfortunately can not subscribe to this way of thinking and am feeling somewhat left out of the marriage equation. At the most base level I provide her with food and shelter and God provides her with love, emotional support & contentment. I am happy that she have found a way of coping with the devastating events over the last year however I unsure and worried where we are heading. I also believe that my own insecurity is clouding my own emotions and would be grateful for any advice or like experiences.