My concern of your post is that you are bothered that women are seeking support for abuse?
What strikes is this.
My ex is the typical, "macho type (appearing) guy, & again & again will make others think he has been abused. He is a con artist.
He is skilled at getting MANY to believe his lies of his being a victim of evil abusive women.
I CAUTION ALL to get to know someone well & over time. That does not mean to go around never trusting people but always be cautious.
It bothers me you come to a place like this & seem angry about women seeking support for abuse. I can't help but wonder if someone has convinced you of something & you may not know this person well.
My ex is a psychopath. I had NO idea early on. It was almost 2 yrs before he dropped his mask.
They will keep people on the side, on a string & only those in their immediate intimate circle that know them OVER TIME will really know their character.
My ex destroyed my life, my credit, & almost killed me.
I am POSITIVE he will go about his life claiming he was, "the victim." It is the story I got from him in the beginning & his signature..
He charms MANY & draws them to him & when he has destroyed .. he spats them out.
psychopaths & sociopaths can be deceptive & dangerous.
& it seems quite odd to me you are bothered by women seeking support from abuse!