I found out that almost a year ago this month my husband was talking and texting an ex-gf of his. I know this may seem small but what really upsets me about it is that if I call him at work he is to busy to talk, but apparently he had all day to talk to her at work!! She was trying to come to our house on the weekends when I was at work and he states he tried to go to her house once to show her pics of our horses but that she was not home. He also says that nothing physical ever happened but I don't know what to believe. Now he want me to move 18 hours away from where we live and where all my fam and friends are to where he grew up. I am afraid to go b/c I am unsure if are marriage is going in the right direction! I feel like something inside me has changed ever since the ex-gf thing. Now all I see is someone that is constantly negative, does not spend time with our kids, and spends money that he does not have. I feel like he thinks it is more important to keep up with what everybody else has then to get out of debt. Last week I cancelled a 60 dollar hair appt. and he spent 400 dollars on his truck!!
Well, all I can do is send you wishes of love and peace. That's definitely wrong he is texting the ex. Why are you moving? What about your kids? Have you talked to him about the money? I can feel your frustration. Mine has made purchases in the thousands of dollars range without my knowledge, all while I cut coupons and save where I can just to realize he blows our money. Have you tried counseling? I know that seems the catch all answer, but if you can find a good one, it's worth it.
Get rid of him. Hes disrespectful to you ,and apparently a stable future for you and your children are not important to him. DONT MOVE, THATS A TACTIC TO CONTROL YOU. You will not have support from your family the way you need it when your gone. Dont trust him. If he has texted the girlfriend, I'm sure it was more than just texting. Hell do it again.