I so just love your words. I have been separated since summer 2008 and our divorce was final April 7, 2009. I have not had the desire or interest in having another man in my life. Sometimes you wonder if there is something wrong but after reading what you wrote I just do not think so. I had almost 20 years of being controlled by somebody else. I lost myself over those years and I am working on getting myself back. I get lonely sometimes but it is peaceful and quiet in my house and I would not change that for anything. I want to find other women like me who believe it is okay to be by themselves, find themselves again and maybe just maybe allowed another person back in their life. Please I want to hear from other women on how they feel. I know for myself I do not want to make another mistake - I would rather grow old by myself then just settle on another man.