i have been married for 12 years to a controlling man. Always in my business, my pocketbook, my cell phone, etc. He belittles me in front of the kids daily. I started drinking heavily in 2006 and was in rehad 3 times and had a dwi . I drank bcuz I couldnt take his emotional abuse so I numbed myself. Cps has also been in our lives bcuz of this. He hates my older daughter and has always been soooo mean to her. But everytime she told me ,he would say shes lying. i cant stand him anymore. he gives me the heebie jeebies. I cant even sleep with him. Hes a complete turnoff. He knows Im filing for divorce but still asks me if we could have 1 more baby. Hes CRAZY!!! Any advice?
Are you sober now? If not, make sure you get help, he will use it against you! Keep your head clear so you can make smart decisions. If you are sober now, he might push those buttons to try to get you to drink again so he can have the upper hand. Yeah crazy he wants another baby, just trying to trap you. I would make your plans to leave, gather records you need, contact a lawyer, but don't let him know until you feel prepared and ready to go. Good luck!
Thanks for the advice. I do still drink , but only wine ... a glass a night. See, the problem was that he wouldnt let me drink so I had to sneak it, and sometimes I would drink alot cuz I knew he would find out anyway. i drank to numb the feelings I had. i never REALLY loved him. He just always said he wasnt as bad as I made him out to be. But he was even worse sometimes. i dont get drunk anymore cuz he lets me have my wine. He also smokes pot daily which I dont but he says its ok cuz hes been doing it for years. But u know something, hes only nice to me when hes "high". Go figure.