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Weight loss

Thanks to all of you who replied to my previous post about meeting someone new. UGH!! Today I was in a store (about 25 minutes from my home) and I saw this guy with his son who is in my neighborhood and I am 99% sure a divorced dad (literally lives around the corner form me, our kids were in the same camp last year). I kind of felt a little something from his look last year, don't know for sure. Anyway, if it was anyone else, I would have said hi, don't I know you, but NO! I HID in different aisles, making sure we never made eye contact! It was one of those I saw his glances away as I was glancing towards, I just COULDN"T bring myself to speak I guess just as easily he could have but he also doesn't know of my situation. Anyway, I was mad at myself for not doing a practice, innocent hello kind of thing. It would have been a safe way to start. I feel like such a loser. Anyway, I feel like a lot has to do with my body image. I am not over weight (I am just over 5'5'' and about 130-135 pounds) so I am not slim but not huge either. I'd really like to exercise and tone up, feel stronger, healthier. Anyone else? I looked online for support groups but they seem pretty hard core, I am not looking to run a marathon or anything, just to get fit and strong. I don't have any friends and i think it would help if someone else wanted to do the same, we could log in with each other about our goals, what we ate, how we exercised, encourage each other if we go off track. I don't seem to be able to get things done unless I am held accountable to someone else, so if anyone is willing to be a partner in this, please email me strongspirit101@aol.com. Even if there's 4 or 5 of us we can cc each other. I am really so desperately wanting a new life, anyone fed up and ready to get a new self image please email me and we can do this together!!

Re: Weight loss

Why are you being so hard on yourself? There will be plenty of other chances to practice. Men are like buses--there is always another one coming around the corner.

Plus--it is his loss. If he wanted to talk to you (and it sounds like he did) then HE should have tried harder. He is probably kicking himself for not taking advantage of the opportunity.

Don't stress. Have fun.

Re: Weight loss

You may want to try sparkpeople.com It is a great wite for tracking your health progress for excercise and weight loss. It also has a portion of it as a support site and they have local (based on your state) teams that are great internet or e-mail support. I think you will really like it.
I understand the part about feeling better about how you look, it does seem to give me more confidence too when I am toned and excercising regularly.
Have a great day.