He never lets us leave for more than a night or two and even then it just depends on the situation so leaveing to go for a year would probably hurt me or my child in some kind of way. I'm so scared for me and my daughter but we just got to get away. My friend is willing to put us up as long as we like but I also don't want to get them in trouble either if he finds us. It's so hard and nerve wrecking when you think about it and the stress upon stress. Do you think running and not looking back will be the answer for us? I have to do something I just don't know what? He keeps saying he is going to kick us out and then why should he as long as we do what he says. He says we have no where else to go and that we are just stuck with him. It so mentally stressful right now its hard to see whats left and right. What do you think would be the best for us to do to get out of this abusive situation? Please we need guidance :-(

I understand what your going through because I am having the same dilemma. The only difference is my husband knows nothing about any legal stuff so I wouldnt have a problem there, but Im scared he may become violent or just difficult to deal with. I really just dont want to be here anymore. He left to work out of town last week and the few days that he was gone felt like heaven. No stress no arguing no empty conversation no mental or emotional abuse for just a few days. When it was time for him to come back my whole attitude changed toward my kids and all I could do was think and cry. Im so over this. I can just imagine what it would be like if I left him. No matter what I have to do to get back on my feet as far as living with friends and family I am so willing to do so. THERE IS NOTHING LIKE PEACE OF MIND. So TAKE YOUR PEACE. I am definitely going to take MINE

Well mines home all the time and he never leaves other than to go to work. That is the only time I can breathe and when my daughter goes to school thats when she can too. It's so hard at times and I just don't like being on pins and needles all the time. Its nerve wrecking. I just want to run away and leave and never come back. I don't want a thing from him at all. I just want my child and me to be safe and happy. I'm just scared he will find us and do us harm. What can I possible do. I got to work to provide and she need school for her education. How can I do this when he can find us easy like that? What can we do?

He is trying to be sweet and be there for us now. I guess he knows or feels like something is coming but even though he is being his sweet self. He is still being his normal buthead self. When he says jump we have to say how high. It really sucks right now and confusing. Am I just naive and falling for his game or should I just go with the plan of just running cause he is never going to change and I am tired of changing for him? What can we do or what should we do?