have you been to Al-Anon meeting? I would suggest it. So your dad was alcoholic? Definitely go to a meeting, being an adult child of an alcoholic and married to one, you need support from people who know what it feels like. They can help you keep your sanity, you will listen to their stories and see you are not alone. You will laugh together and cry together, no judgement passed. You can get your head clear and make good decisions. As for your husband...if you want to give him a chance, i'd tell him to go to AA meetings and get OFF the alcohol NOW because as others have said it will get worse and you shouldn't have to deal with that. If he loves and values you (and more so, if he loves and values HIMSELF) he will get help. But he might just not care about his life in general (for whatever reason) and no matter what you do it will not be enough, he absolutely must admit he has a problem and make the choice to have a better life. This will have to come from him, he can't do it for you, he has to do it for himself and you can be there and support him if you wish. I really feel for you, mine's an addict, I wish I had gotten out when I had the chance, I just couldn't (very low self-esteem). I'll pray for you both.

I am in the same situation although we have been together for almost 10 years, married 6. Three months ago I found out he started drinking again. I have almost 10 years sober and he would have had 10 years sober. This sucks and I want out. Thank God I was smart enough not to have kids with him. I could not imagine. Mine does the same thing- keeps me up half the night and I have to get up and go to work. I am scared as heck to tell him I want out, but I know this is the best thing for me. I know I will be fine alone and will one day (maybe) find someone special who will treat me with the respect I deserve. You will too.