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so court was on tuesday and by the grace of god was reset to Friday. After leavin the court house my ex's lawyer submitted a counter plea to our case where my ex entered a sworn affadavit that I was a drug user and heavy drinker and that my kids have been exposed to domestic violence. he's claiming that my children have lived with him since before our divorce LIES LIES LIES!!!! im so mad i cant believe hes doing this I dont even know who this man is anymore a month ago hes crying to me how bad he wanted us back and a month later this and he engaged. Can he get in trouble for all these falls claims and what can I do to pove my daughters have lived with me this whole time???
Thats absolutely horrible. Yes I know you can show proof of them living with you from what my friend has done. If you have any bills during that time thats one and any witnesses other moms that will also sign something to the fact. I am sorry what a jerk. Its amazing what people will do when they are in fear. You can always take a drug test like they do for new jobs and just have it ready to submit when you are back in court. I pray for the best for you. Sorry that must have been upsetting.
I had court this Friday. And it wasn't pretty. I told the court that I would willingly submit to a hair folicle test but the judge did not order it. I submitted school records, medical records, dental records homework pictures my babys have drawn at school this past year some where they drew a picture of our home and wrote about how much they loved it. He's claiming that the reason I was able to take them to there doctors appointments all the time is because I didnt work at the time and that it was more convient for me to take care of that sorta thing. The judge is sayin that at the end he may not be able to determine what there primary resedince has been. My girls can tell the judge the truth but they wont let them testify. Not even my oldest who is 12...
How old are your children? Old enough to say who they have been living with?
I think courts have seen a lot of this type of behaviour from disgruntled ex's. Yes you can have a drugs test, I would suggest it is harder for him to prove what he is saying is true than for you to prove it is a lie.
How they can change. Good luck.
Your ex has hired a professional divorce attorney with no ethics, they play dirty and they will keep playing dirty until you give up. It is most likley not your ex's idea but he did agree to go along with it. Being up against a professional divorce attorney is grueling and will eat at you at every turn. Their dirty games will continue until you give up or your ex stops paying him, until such time get ready it is going to be a horrible ride.
Pay attention, most of the games they will play will be you having to prove a negative that will almost be impossible to prove. I had hidden millions how do you prove you do not have hidden millions but to go to a forensic accountant,,,,,very, very expensive. They look at every penny spent by cash, credit card, check and every deposit for three years back. Almost impossible but I did it and proved nothing was hidden. At one point I got so discourage trying to prove the negative that I said to the court if you would just order him to tell me where the money is hidden he can have it all. Stupid and not a fun game but the professionals play games like this all of the time. You will soon learn to admire people that get to have a normal divorce process. And do not be surprised if they start filing motions like this on you once a week, just another way to break you down, I had a new moion filed on me every week for 57 weeks. my heart goes out to you and hoefully I am wrong.