I totally agree with susan. Counseling will be good. dont let him bring you down. This is what he is trying to do. That way he can say you are unstable and try for the children. As for blaming you for the pregnancy that is just what men do when they are the ones that are actually doing wrong. Contact a lawyer there is such a thing that significant others cannot be around the children until the divorce is final. As for his family . My ex's family was the same way , they just did this to hurt you. It's hard but dont let them get under your skin. Show them that this is not going to destroy you but make you stronger. hang in there it will be ok.