Men are such cowards. He should have been a man and told you a long time ago that he was engaged and getting married. If it wasn't about you then why didn't he say something. You have a right to know considering that you and him have a son together and shared so much of your life. Also, it's totally inapporpriate if you found all this out from your son. I have a 3 yr old who I have found out a lot from that has hurt me beyond any end. Her dad not being man enough to tell me the truth himself. They put you in a horrible position by doing this. Your kids shouldn't have to suffer from your reactions to things that are so hurtful. I'm sorry that this is happening to you and I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mother.