Ladies,
Thank you all for expressing your feelings. I do not feel so alone. I have been divorced for 9 months. I was married for 28 years to a man w/ addictions. As time passed, his addictions grew stronger. The relationship slowly evolved into what I could do for him. When I finally realized that he would never be the functioning man I married and that he was a black hole of need, I made the break. Even though this was the healthy decision, it doesn't make it easy. I feel betrayed. We were supposed to have a good life together. We had goals and plans. We were soul mates.(Or so I thought) I mourn this loss everyday, but I don't miss him. I am angry, hurt, lonely, confused and just sad. My life feels surreal. I know that as time passes, this will get better. And for now, some days are better than others. I have chosen not to communicate w/ him at all. I feel that this is the only way I can heal. Thanks for listening.

I have also only just joined the no communication approach. It is hard in one way, easier in another.
Im sad but without the rollercoaster of emotions he would fuel (text wars etc). I left in April 2009 and only now are we really breaking ties.
Im hoping the worst is behind now.
Im looking forward to a morning I will wake up and hes not my first thought one way or another. Then Ill know Im getting there.

I think in sharing our feelings we can use more perspective and see it as a process; a process with common themes but more importantly a process that we will survive. I have gotten more strength, encouragement and hope from listening to others on this forum than anywhere else.

Ups and downs are all accepted here.