From what I understand, the custodial parent (one the child spends the most nights with) is allowed the credit by federal law and federal law determines who gets what exemption. The rub would come if your child spends an equal number of nights with you and your ex. Then the custodial parent is the one with the highest adjusted gross income. (See http://www.irs.gov/publications/p17/ch03.html#en_US_publink1000170899 and scroll down to "Children of Divorced or Separated Parents....")
I'm not an expert though! Just trying to help by throwing this out there for you to look at. I was a paralegal for 15 years (though not in domestic law)and I am also going to have to handle as much of my own legal work as possible because of financial issues. Good luck!
thank you! I am going to check it out now. I just need a little "smart" to throw out there. The guy how over hear our case before was an idiot and he just gave my ex the rights because he was the one who filed for the hearing ( IMO)