That's a hard decision because you hate to see your daughter so saddened by this. I think that if you think it will benefit her to make contact then do it. I've been thinking a lot about these kids of things seeing as though I am in a similar situation. I always thought that children were better off with a mother and father, but only if they are good parents. I think that it's also true that sometimes it may be better to not have a father if the one you have isn't so great. I think that it's his responsibility to be a father, but as mothers we tend to be the ones who always do right by our children whether the men realize this or not. Do what your heart tells you to do.