It can take a while till the g/f sees the real deal but see they will. By that time we should nicely be recovered. And unless our ex's have a total personality change we know exactly how life will be, we know what the g/f can expect far better than she can.
I told my ex's g/f 'you have a lot to learn', in her head she probably thought 'he's different with me'.
Hmmm the upcoming court hearing sure tells me he's different. I missed out on the violence. They bring out the best in each other it would seem.