I can relate...what a rollercoaster. I can't say that my husband's niceness is causing me to love or respect him again...it isn't. It does make me feel sorry for him, because he know I'm ready to refile anytime and he's grasping for straws...trying everything....wanting to talk about planning for our future, planting trees, family vacations. (actually, he talks about that in front of the kids, which puts even more pressure on me....more control) I know he wouldn't see it as that.

I agree, it IS easier when he's being an a**. Then I don't have those feeling of feeling sorry for him.

I know Jean, sods law isnt it, they spend years making us miserable then when we want them to be themselves they become (or should that be 'pretend to be') the wonderful guy we thought we were getting in the first place. How selfish of them...