Give it time.. did u file for court ordered support? I felt the same way you did, my ex ran around for over a year with his new gf (who everyone tells me is ugly, i dont think she is that bad but i only saw pics, she does have a really big forehead and is really really tall) anyway he ran around to bars, wineries, concerts, stayed at the beach, while me and the kids didnt have money for groceries let alone money to get our pool up and running, or be able to take them anywhere like fairs etc.I found things to do with the kids, going for walks, hikes, and free things, and also played with them at home. he even took the one window a/c we had and sent a pic of the hotel pool they stayed out to my phone! well now that child support services has kicked in he is crying cause now he doesnt have money to spend on his gf and from what i hear her bday was the other weekend and she wasnt happy.. guess he couldnt take her out.. now the kids and i are still struggling because i am not getting all the money he is supposed to give me, but it gives me some pleasure to know that he doesnt have money. He tells me that when they come see him i have to send them with food cause he doesnt have money to feed them or do anything with them. i said welcome to what my last two years have been like. he can feed them, he feeds everyone else that shows up at his new frat house (my old home) and he has money to buy his liquor.
It takes time but worry about yourself and your kids, dont think about what he is doing, remember you are doing right for your kids and he isnt, people will notice that and look down on him and praise you. I know it sucks and hurts alot, but keep your head up. You will find someone else, i used to think the same thing, that no one would want me cause i have three kids, but i did find someone, and he cared for me and my kids.. unfortunately he was very jealous and i had to end the relationship. I do not think i was ready for a relationship anyway, i need time to get myself together, I moved out and am looking for a better job (so i wont have to rely on getting money from support as much). I need time to think about what i want in a relationship as well. i put so much into my marriage of 18 years, that is difficult for me to give someone anything now without feeling like the same thing will happen. Maybe i wont find anyone, but right now i know i need to be content by myself, i dont want to rely on someone else to make me happy, that is up to me.
SO hang in there, take care of yourself and the kids. He may think he has got it made right now, but if you get child support services on him, he will see how much control he doesnt have over you. Take care of yourself and the kids, and whatever you do, dont forget that you are doing right and he is doing wrong.