Oh, Abbey. Wow. I feel such compassion for you! Unfortunately that's all I have to give, I am in a weakened state myself, I'm afraid. My stb ex-husband says the same kind of things to me that yours does, and I am embarrassed to say we have had sex again, even though he has been dating off and on and has made it clear that he doesn't want to reconcile with me. When I'm honest, I think he's just lonely between women. I can't even believe I am doing this! I am so insanely jealous of his partners and his ability to move on. Obviously I am having a lot of trouble breaking away, and I've started thinking that I need to start dating just to made the transition. I honestly don't have a desire -- I just don't want to be alone when he finds the next love of his life! I think the jealousy will kill me. And we too share a wonderful, beloved child who is precious to us both. So, I have to keep seeing him, in some capacity anyway. Moving is alway disorienting, so once you are settled maybe you'll feel more anchored. Again, no advice.... but lots and lots of love, support and compassion.