Lori are you sure we are not married to the same person!! He sounds just like my husband. Mr Nice Guy, no pressure about legals, just be nice to me, rant at me when he is having a bad day, shouts at me when he thinks I can't hear him, but told me that I was the only stable thing in his life. Yeah, well if that was the case, why throw away 20 yrs then. I don't know what he will do this year as last year he was having his affair at this very time. Thats the hard part for me looking back at where he was and what he was doing, sleeping with his slut and coming home to me as well. Went on holidays for our Wedding anniversary, I made special plans for us, and what does he do, calls and texts the slut while we are away. Only found that out when he left and I had access to his phone bills. That almost destroyed me. He was such a good liar and sneak and I never had a clue as I trusted him completely. He also took HER shopping for my birthday and anniversary presents, found that out later as well. I feel like stabbing someone in the eye with a knife!!! Not that it would help but it may make me feel better

Girl, I am in the same boat, what is it about these men thinking that they are God's greatest and that we women are merely there, and when they just decide they dont want us anymore they just want to be friends, to make life easier for us. Mine left me 3 months ago, after 24 years of a great marriage, and said it was because i
did not keep my kitchen clean enough.

I don't know whether the best way to completely get over someone is to get under someone else, but it can help. Get out and meet people. Regain control of your life. It's ironic, a business partner and I were discussing a way to make it easier for divorcees to start dating again without any pressure. So we said hey, why not build a food dating website where you can meet people to have dinner with. Does this sounds like something that would be appealing to the community? If so, we might start building it.

I would love such a site! I am not looking for a relationship but it would be nice to have someone to go to dinner with and NO pressure!

Maybe you could add something I was thinking about a few years back. I thought wouldn't it be nice to have someplace to sign up somewhere if you wanted to see a local movie some night and not have to sit by yourself. You could find someone who wants to see the same movie and maybe it could build into something more than a friendship, but you would have to set up safety issues. Maybe you could even have it where you would just want another woman as a friend...rather than another man if you are not up to feeling like it is a date and just wanted the company of another woman. "Just a thought."

omg, i am with you, I have been married 24yrs, and he says that he is just no in love with me anymore. How do I even meet people