I was married for 11 years. stay at home Mom for the last 6 years. I have Crohn's and sometimes it's hard to hole a job when you throw up all the time or have to take days off for treatments...but I am surviving. I have a good job, great understanding employer and the child support helps. I do not have an education, was scheduled to start classes in September but had to back out because my attorney fees are too much and I can't pay for school. My saving went to attorney fees and now I'm living pay to pay. It's worth it though because I am finally free.
I had taken loans out while my stbx was living with me. I got my associates, but I have an $18,000 college loan to pay for now and I dont have my stbx's income to pay for it. Hopefully I can get some money for it in the divorce settlement if he ever files for divorce. But when he moved out, I got financial aid for the last semester of school. So if you are not living with your husband, you should be able to get financial aid too.
"I am still the mother AND father, do handy-man work around my house, and make every decision: I really feel like the only thing he does is make money, which is big because I can't make any."
That was and is my life. I was inferior because i could not make as much money as he did. He doesnt have a degree and barely made it thru high school, but being a man, he can get labor work that pays. I have my associates degree now but still can't get a good paying job. I need to go for my bachelors, but have been putting it off because I want to find a job and dont know if i can handle both. I did classes online for my associates (mainly because he would have never let me leave the house for classes). I am debating now whether to continue online or go to classes. Problem I have is that the only time i can go to class is during the day when kids are in school, but I will be back at work at least by January, so i wont be able to take day classes then. I could go back to online college, but I worry if a bachelors from an online college will be good enough to get a better paying job.