The Facts:

Stay at home mom for 4 years. Two kids under 5. No income. Husband had affairs. Claims there isn't anyone in the picture now. Just found out about all of this two weeks ago. Didn't know because he travels for work.

How in the heck to people afford divorces? I mean honestly. No one here does pro bono and legal aid doesn't do divorces. I'm a smart gal and I can read about things, but my spouse is Mensa smart, been divorced before and knows what to expect.

This is so stressful.

No income? If your husband works, then you do have income. The problem might come if he controls the purse strings. Start stashing money and save for a retainer fee. After you file, your husband will be required to pay temporary child support and maintainance until the divorce is settled. Get yourself a credit card in your own name, a safe deposit box, and a post office box. Educate yourself, plan, and execute. Rely on family, frineds and clergy when you can...both emotionally and financially. Additionally, when finding an attorney, get referrals from friends...Don't just use the phone book.

Hang in there and take one day at a time. Pray, Pray, Pray.

DO exactly what Jean says. Get a credit, hide money. Bid your time. Took me 9 years to leave my ex. I had a credit card, more money than he knew about. Amazing how much the electric/water/insurance bills were back then
My ex was enjoying his women and I was enjoying his pay checks. Stupid man never took care of his own bills.

You can do the divorce yourself if you have to.
I agree with previous posts, PLAN.
Also, people do their own divorces all the time.
It's smarter to get legal aid BUT the forms & instructions are typically found online @ your local court websites.
Oh, be sure to clear your computer history..
not sure who posted the thumbs down..
the stb ex ?
I'm not a man hater or men basher, but I was married to an extremely abusive man, so I understand the reality that comes with it (or lack thereof!).