Oh my gosh! That is sooooo funny. Revenge can be sweet, regardless of what anyone says. Hey, if you leave a note and walk out you might not be treated with upmost respect...nor do you deserve to be. Standing up for ourselves and getting in those jabs can be healing. Mature? Who cares? It's healing and really, no one gets hurt- not physically anyway.

So true Becky. I know I was acting like a child but see I was also acting like he did for years. LIKE I DID NOT CARE!!! If he would have been more careful with my heart and I would have been more careful with his belongings.

The mental picture my friend roasting marsh mellows over her hubby's things makes me laugh every time I think of it.

I think you were giving him what he wanted in your mind, his freedom, his stuff..you just got a little excited. No harm intended..
I was shocked what my ex did to me, so many times.
& I would often react.. At first I think it's the idea of wanting to fix them but eventually when there's a pattern it's like, ok GO & DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT YA IN THE .......
To me, there is a SPIRITUAL maturity that is much larger than the smaller things we do or say.
Many of these guys that run/cheat/lie are not matured spiritually.
I think one often falls to Re Acting
& then disconnecting from the darkness becomes the goal.
It's like dealing with an immature teenager or a child, after awhile one gets tired of the games & wants it Over. maybe if you had left an apron & some scissors.. perhaps he would get the hint (time for him to grow up)

yeah...I agree...time for him to grow up.
funny how he moved into his grandma's house...to her, he is like the golden boy, the second coming...he can do no wrong and she is doing his laundry and patting his poor head when the ex wife of his says...call after 7:30 please...grow down is what he seems to be doing, but I am through and he is no longer on my list of emotional concerns!
Wow, it feels great to write that!

I, too, am truly at a place where I don't care what my stbx does as long as it doesn't affect me or the kids. I have to admit, though, that sometimes I am very curious. For example, on my way to work I drive past the house of one of his friends. His friend is married and they have children. The stbx's vehicle was parked in the driveway that morning...obviously had been there all night. My stbx lives close by. Just get curious. It's like what the H***? Lots of things he's doing now that I had no idea were of interest to him. Together for 17 years and I didn't know? But truly I DON'T CARE! And yes, it does feel good to be there.

As to not caring what they do anymore...


AMEN to that! I so agree!