I have been separated about 4 months and going thru the divorce process. I also did the letter thing about 3 months ago while we were going thru the mediation process.

I worked on my letter for a couple of days and then asked him to meet me. I read the letter to him not expecting a reaction which was a good thing because he said nothing. But the letter was more for me to say my goodbyes and to verbally say the words out loud to him.

He wanted out of our marriage so it still hurts and I still cry. But I know in time it will hurt less and less.

But my point being putting your thoughts and feelings down on paper does help. It gives you some form of closure not complete closure but it does help!

Dont know if he can use it against you. But I loved it. Tell him like it is !