STOP HAVING SEX WITH HIM!!
Join a gym, a book club anything to get you out and met people.
He is wrong for toying with your emotions that way.
You are wrong for allowing him to use you
YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE!!!!!!!!!

You haven't mentioned children, so is there any reason you need to have ANY contact with him? Don't answer his e-mails. Heck, don't even read them. Screen your calls and don't answer when he calls. If he stops over don't answer the door, or for sure don't let him in. Let him know that is your home and he is not welcome there. I had to make that VERY clear to Jerk. He didn't stop by for sex, but he seemed to think he could come and go as he pleased. I believe I told him "You are a guest in MY home, and, surprise, you are NOT welcome here." He was shocked, but has "honored" that request. Of course after threatening to call the cops when his mother came by a few years ago-crazed (there's another story)-I think he believes I'll do it.

Then, as Lisa said, you need to start building your own life. It's not easy, but doable. Join a gym, get active in a church, volunteer for something you believe in, join a book club, find a divorce support group, get a dog and take it for walks. Force yourself to get out and do things. Shoot, I'm not a reader but I was invited to a book club meeting, so guess what? I'm not turning down the oportunity to make new friends. I'll read the book and I might even enjoy this new experience. You never know, this could lead to friendships that go beyond the book club-or maybe not. But what have I lost?

As far as the sex goes-think about where that 'thing' has been. Do you really want that touching you? Hmmmm....

You deserve better. Make it happen.

In order for you to begin to heal from the divorce and move forward in your own life, often times ties must be cut. The fear of being alone seems to have you hostage. Take advice from the other replies, learn to make friends. You can do this in small steps. Make one goal this week toward accomplishing this such as invite a co-worker (female) to lunch or dinner, or check out a local gym. Make one goal and accomplish it. When you learn that you can make it on your own, you will probably feel alot different toward your ex-spouse. (Set one goal toward a different future)

Audrey Silcox
Author of Divorce Tool Box
http://www.divorcetoolbox.com

it's called fornication (sex outside of marriage). read the bible.
u play. u pay.

lifewithouth

That was harsh & rather unkind- why don't you read the Bible!!!

I agree with Sue. We all have a right to our own opinions and beliefs, but it's the way that we express them (especially on a forum where people are wounded or raw)that counts. In the Bible Christ approached a crowd of people who were going to stone a woman who had "fornicated". He looked at the people around her and spoke..."Let him who has not sinned cast the first stone." No one could. One by one the crowd left...Christ did not agree with what this woman had done, but he forgave her....It was his understanding and love that changed this woman's life...not judgement....there is a time for judgement and it belongs to God not us.

Susan