In order for you to begin to heal from the divorce and move forward in your own life, often times ties must be cut. The fear of being alone seems to have you hostage. Take advice from the other replies, learn to make friends. You can do this in small steps. Make one goal this week toward accomplishing this such as invite a co-worker (female) to lunch or dinner, or check out a local gym. Make one goal and accomplish it. When you learn that you can make it on your own, you will probably feel alot different toward your ex-spouse. (Set one goal toward a different future)
Audrey Silcox
Author of Divorce Tool Box
http://www.divorcetoolbox.com
I agree with Sue. We all have a right to our own opinions and beliefs, but it's the way that we express them (especially on a forum where people are wounded or raw)that counts. In the Bible Christ approached a crowd of people who were going to stone a woman who had "fornicated". He looked at the people around her and spoke..."Let him who has not sinned cast the first stone." No one could. One by one the crowd left...Christ did not agree with what this woman had done, but he forgave her....It was his understanding and love that changed this woman's life...not judgement....there is a time for judgement and it belongs to God not us.