What's his hurry, really? From what you've said, he was perfectly content to eat his cake and have it, too, and now he wants to shop at a new bakery? Putz! LOL!
Guess he needs a new wife to cheat on and lie to? Well I guess they should rush to get married they do have a child together..she is 13 (between dating, being married and the divorce we have been together for 14 years) so yeah he is a putz