Physical or not, it's still an affair-an emotional affair. The truth hurts, but for me there is also power in the truth. It's easier to quit blaming yourself when you know the truth. You're right...none of those reasons are a reason for divorce. I'm so glad you have a supportive family. You will make it to the other side and find true happiness. Hang in there.

He doesn't have to admit something for you to know that it's true. Don't let yourself mentally depend on what he says or doesn't say. I hate to say it, but it's almost always true that they've had an affair - a full-out physical affair. He may not care for her but he certainly doesn't know how to care for you either. He cares for himself and has been completely selfish. It has nothing to do with her. It's his lack of character. Shake it off, or at least pretend to, and be your best self. Let him see what he's lost. Take care of yourself. I'm very sorry and don't give up. You will get through this one day at a time.

I know you are hurting, but thank god you are young, childless and found out his true character while still a young woman. You have family,still, to live with. What he did sucks. It is disgusting. He is weak. It makes you wonder about your own judgement (in choosing him in the first place)but you have your whole life ahead of you. You will be fine. Cry, allow yourself to BE ANGRY, get therapy and get over the bum. I am going to do the same, but I am in my fifties. It is more of a shock after 25 years, believe me!