Today my divorce papers came in the mail. I don't know how I am suppose to feel. I want to say I feel shocked, but I am not. I want to say I feel surprise, but I am not. I say I want to feel sad, but I am not. I feel a sense of RELIEF. Like now I don't have to hold my tongue. I can say what I have to say and whether he likes it or not. I don't have to put up with his insults, his scandals or his bad attitude any more. I don't have to talk to him ever again if I don't want to. I feel like I can finally find my voice and make sure he knows it. I feel empower, after a yr of uncertainty I can finally find peace to this roller coaster. I know thing will probably hit tomorrow or another day that 20 plus year are gone like nothing for a woman that is not even worth sh#t but that is not for me to dwell on. I need to move on and see what life can give me and my kids. I can and will no longer dwell on his well being or his needs. If he does not care for the mother of his kids, why should I care for him,
Who is with me. I need all the support and hoorays I can get. I need to make sure I don't forget who this man really is and what he has become. The Flea will no longer rule my world or dictate what I do. From now on it will be me, me, and me.......I need to take care of ME AND MY KIDS. AND NOBODY ELSE..
I got served several weeks ago with divorce papers at my job. I was shocked and so hurt. My husbands career is traveling all over the country. Is most recent trip upon his return he was so different. I tried to talk to him and could not get any results. It was close to Christmas it took him 3 weeks to buy me a gift and claimed that he did not know what to buy or did not want to celebrate it. He had his heart set on his upcoming trip to the Fiesta Bowl and I was not invited. He told me not to call him that he would have his cell phone off. During all that time he would go out as he claimed to unwind and think about things and come home at all different times. He now claims that I did nothing for his wanting to divorce. I have been married to this man 20 + years and never had a problem except for 8 years ago with a co-worker who spent alot of time on the phone more than me. I wish you all the best! Who do these men think they are.
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I can write a book.
I waiting for my divorce papers. They should be arriving within the next few weeks. I am looking at that moment as the next chapter in our book of life. So, you are now starting a new chapter and this chapter is all about YOU! So, I hope it is filled with happiness, fun, love and everything you want it to be!!
I'm with you Ladyrb! I picked up the certified (or whatever it's called) copy of the divorce papers before I even left the court house last week.
In the settlement, I got money and he got the house. I'm still here in the same house with my ex and have 3 months to leave. I'm looking for a little place to buy.
Oh what a feeling! What a tremendous relief!
As you said, I no longer have to dwell on his well being or his needs. He can have that ---- tramp and I could care less.
Funny thing is that after a year of me crying and feeling torn apart inside and begging him to just leave her alone, now he picks up his copy of the divorce papers and weeps and sobs. Huh?