I know you are hurting, but thank god you are young, childless and found out his true character while still a young woman. You have family,still, to live with. What he did sucks. It is disgusting. He is weak. It makes you wonder about your own judgement (in choosing him in the first place)but you have your whole life ahead of you. You will be fine. Cry, allow yourself to BE ANGRY, get therapy and get over the bum. I am going to do the same, but I am in my fifties. It is more of a shock after 25 years, believe me!