Hey I got a "Really?!" story that fits right in.
I have Crohn's Disease. I had been sick for about 6 months. I couldn't eat, if I did I threw up. I lost a total of 44 lbs. I was in such terrible pain that I literally lived on pain pills. I couldn't function with out them. I felt like my insides were being twisted and pulled out.It was worse than labor. I worked, took care of 2 children the whole time, without help from him. I finally got tired of it. I called my surgeon and made plans to have a section of my bowel removed ( this was surgery #3) My ex would not go to the visit with me, he thought that I was being selfish and that things should just go on as they were. I was afraid I was becoming addicted to the pain meds. and refused to go another week without doing something. I went to see my surgeon on a Friday and he told me he could schedule me in for Monday. I told him that I needed to get a few things in line first so we scheduled for two weeks later.
I went home told husband, he refused to talk to me for the next 2 weeks. I really didn't care, I had to much to do. I cleaned every room in the house, got meals ready for the next few weeks, made a schedule of babysitters I would need. I knew I wasn't going to be able to do anything (my youngest was a little over a year, my oldest was starting pre-K so I needed someone to be able to put him on and get him off the bus) Anyhow I had EVERYTHING pre planned for him all he had to do was put them to bed at night. His mother would be at the house at 5am every morning.I had my surgery, I was to be out of the hospital in 4 days. I started running a fever (103) and my dr refused to release me for 6 days after that. My ex was so ****** that he didn't come see me in the hospital I was after all being selfish and making his life hard because he had to take care of the kids for a whole 10 days.
He treated me like dirt on the bottom of his shoes for the next 8 weeks. Told me I was"playing my disease to get attention" I had 32 staples going straight down the middle of my stomach but I was faking. And he wonders why I divorced him??? Really?!

OMG!!! Lisa, your husband sounds like a selfish**&%$#@
that doesn't deserve one tear to be shed in regards to his absense! May you look forward to all good things to come~

Lisa,

Your ex earns the "Cold-hearted Monster Award" for that one. I'll never understand how some hearts can be so wicked and lack compassion. That's it...He has no heart.

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Susan

The one good thing that comes from being married to someone so selfish is that you're relieved when they're gone. I remember once years ago when Jerk asked me if I thought he was a selfish person. I remember feeling very stuck. Yes, I did think he was selfish, but at that time our marriage was OK (Not great, but was it ever great?) and I loved him (why? who knows!). So I believe I lied. So many things I'd do differently if I had it to do over again.

And yes, Lisa, your story does take the prize. I'm so glad you have someone now that treats you well.

WOW Lisa! I know someone who has Crohn's disease and it is extremely hard to live with it and deal with it. The person I know had to have surgery as well and I know the pain they went through. Crohn's is a very serious condition and something you have to live with for the rest of your life. My heart goes out to you and he is a complete ...hole!!! You deserve so much better. And someday I believe you will find someone who will treat you and love you the way you deserve.

Why do we fall in love with people who don't give as much as we give? Maybe so we can that person who will someday. I have to believe we need travel down a certain road to get to the one where we will find real happiness & love.

I hope you are doing better with your Crohn's.

Mine proposed on Vday also which makes it even worse. I know think it should be banned. Everyday you should show loved ones how much you love them. It just gives guys an excuse to only do it once a year so they can feel good about themselves.