Three weeks ago today, my husband went to work as usual except on this particle day he never returned home. Our 11 year old daughter and I were duly informed, later that night via a text message, that he had moved out and wasn't coming back because he had needed some "alone time", his words not mine. Now, I understand there was pressure on him concerning work, but come on, to walk out on your family, like a thief in the night speaks volumes about a person.

I then went thru a rampant series of emotions, that quite frankly, I shouldn't have. I never forsook my family for a three week, gout inducing drug binge, I never walked out like a coward. But I stuck it out, bit down hard and with my head up and boobs out, I moved forward because I had to, for myself, my dignity and my 11 year daughter. Sure there were times when I did the weeping and the wailing thing, but not anymore.

You want to know why? It just dawned on me today, that I'm FREE, FREE, FREE!! I can now have a life with meaning and purpose, and that, my dear ladies is more dear to me than the tainted love of yesterday.
BE BOLD, BE BRAVE, we can all have a new life worth living, so lets get out there and get busy, I am.

Manless but not hopeless

AMEN!

Susan

Thank You! I needed that pep talk!

My ex will never ever accept responsibility for what he did. That just tears me apart inside. I have to focus on the future, when I can finally find my own place to live and move on and out!

Is there a song I can sing when the time comes? Right now I'm looking for my own place with the crappy settlement he was willing to part with. The only reason I accepted such a small amount is because he threatened my daughter and was violent to me.

I'm so da__ angry. I have to focus on being FREE FREE FREE

JustMe, I tend to sing 'Always Look on the Bright Side of Life' from 'Life of Brian'....

Your most welcome @Justme, I know its all smoke and mirrors when it comes to putting on a brave public face for "He-Man", but I'd rather show some real grit than to wallow in pity, just for his amusement.

Humour helps mend a torn and bloody heart, but a backbone of steel gives us the courage to face another day. Stay strong, I am and so can you.

Ps, Does the song by Dennis Leary "Your an A**hole" count in this case?

Humour is my coping mechanism, and @Lisa H, I'm glad we've had a giggle at someone else's expense, rather that than wailing into a glass of Merlot.

I laugh everyday. Humor is my best friend.

You go girl! I love your attitude and I am looking forward to more of your pep talks.