I am in the same situation. I don't want to leave our home, but I have been advised otherwise, not told what to do, just advised that moving may be better than staying in the home WE created and built TOGETHER.

He has now chosen to leave our HOME, it nearly kills me to imagine living somewhere else. We struggled for years to afford this place, our DREAM place to live. On a mountain, on 40 acres, surrounded by serenity and peace. I love the fresh air, mountains, nature, did I mention the quiet. He now lives in suburbia, in a bedroom, with his computer and 2 mobile phones. I know this must be killing him, but as I keep telling him when he whinges about money, it was his choice to leave.

If and when the time comes to move/sell our HOME, then I will deal with it then. Until that time comes, I will take his money, take everything I can get and smile, knowing I deserve everything, and he deserves to be guilty and suffering, because he destroyed the best thing that ever happened to him - ME!

Thanks for all your encouragement. I go back and forth. Thinking I could change things enough and stay--If I can get it all in writing and legal so he can't squirm out of it. And sometimes I want to go somewhere he never was. A real fresh start. I will wait and see what really takes place with it all. Right now he paying house payment and all bills. I buy my gas and groceries, and sticking as much of my paycheck away as possible for unknown future. He just trying to be seen as a hero to the girls to try to make them not hate him so much. We all see it. I will take advantage of all his guilt and stupidity. Like Jo said, we deserve it for all the unbearable pain they have caused.

Wishing the best for you and your kids. There are obviously differing opinions, and what works for one person, one situation may not be the best for another. Truly, only you and God know what's best for YOU. My grandmother always recommended prayer...it works for me even though I don't always like the answer I'm given. Let us know how things progress. Hugs.

Thanks, Becky. I have given it to God to decide His will in this one. I don't know what is best for me, but God does. So if it works to stay in house fine, if not that's fine too. Prayer is all that is getting me though this.