I am going through the same thing with my daughter. No matter what a great mother you are, they are definitely going to have "daddy issues" and that will in turn may unfortunately spill over into her relationships with men and the way she will allow them to treat her. I am trying to teach my 15-year-old self respect, independence and self-love. My husband (we are at the beginning stage of divorce) has been abusive throughout our 30 year history (yes, I was 14 when I met him and had "daddy issues" myself). I am finally breaking the cycle and do not want her to end up in divorce beat up by the turmoil. I am leading by example and am hoping and praying my positive influence is stronger than his negative one. Stay strong. You will find strength when you least expect it.