Hi All. As you might know I am starting the divorce proceedure. I go to the attorney this week to file the paperwork. In the meantime I am cleaning house. I am selling most of my furniture and packing up things that I need to take. I am renting a UHaul and movers to move my stuff while he is at work one day. I am taking my dogs and leaving. My husband is so self centered and only thinks of himself and he has taken a lot of money from me and now I am left almost broke. THank god for friends/family to help me out. Anyways, I dont know the signs of what I should/shouldnt feel. I feel sad, depressed and now guilt. I feel guilty for how I'm doing things. He will be in shock when he comes home to find it almost empty (except for his things). Is this a normal feeling? I need some support here. I've tried to talk to him about our problems but he tells me he has no time to deal with it or that I knew about how he was when we married and he is not going to change. Help? Please. I cant stop crying and I'g losing my mind. I dont sleep or eat. I know i need to leave and move on with my life and be happy. WE have no kids, so at least thats good but I do have my dogs! :)
All of what your feeling is perfectly normal. Don't feel guilty over the way you are doing things. In this situation we are sometimes FORCED to do things in ways we don't like just to protect ourselves. This does NOT make us bad people.Be proud you are taking care of YOU.
Dont feel guilty. If I knew my husband was even thinking about doing this I would have started doing things behind his back to prepare because I know how mean he can be. He called me yesterday, he is also very self-centered, and told me he was breaking his promise to come back in June and help me move and at the same time get his stuff, but also threatened me if I didnt send what he wanted, he would file right away and not pay the bills till june and would take me off the medical insurance which I need for a little while longer. He is very selfish and doesnt care how much he is hurting me or his daughter. Hopefully she will be going to college in 2 years, but its hard. There is no reasoning with him on anything.