My soon to be ex is a pathological liar. I think he is capable of anything. It is so hard to live with worrying about what he will come up with next?? I am getting help but if he sees any strenght in me or anything positive in my life, he pulls something to try and take me down. Any advise on how to counter that?

If you dont live together, dont answer the phone lol. Thats what I am doing. And I am trying really hard to realize what a heartless SOB he has always been. I can see now how bad he destroyed me mentally and I am trying to focus on the positive things and let the negative go. Its hard. REally hard, but dont let him control you. Mine thinks he has so much control over me. He doesnt have as much as he thinks lol. And keep coming on here :) Everyone is so good here. Its helped me a lot.

Thank you so much. For 22 years I thought I was alone and could not break away from this man. I am taking steps to do that.

Each individual control's their own thoughts,feelings & behavior. When you react to your husband's manipulative behavior, it gives him secondary gain & the behavior most likely will continue. Don't surrender control to anyone. You cannot control other's so surrender your expectation's of how you want your husband to act. That is not realistic & will only leave you feeling frustrated! Most likely, he has acted in such a manner for a long time, so why would he all of a sudden change? Change yourself & try & stop consuming energy on someone that is no longer going to be part of your life!

Good advice. I'm going to have to really work hard on not engaging with him.

Absolutely NO CONTACT. This was something I read and it has been so helpful. It will allow you to start to heal and it is the one thing that will drive him crazy.

I am (STILL) married to a pathological liar. Here's what I do. First, never believe a word he says. I really don't care what words fall out of his face, in my mind, it's all rubbish. Second, I imagine a protective bubble around me when I feel threatened. It's sort of liek a "go to your happy place" kind of thing. I imagine a forcefield, anything negative or hurtful will just bounce off of me so there you go. Third, I pray. Not specifically about HIM, but if ANYONE sends negative thoughts towards me, I ask it be returned to them 10-fold. Might be a little silly, but hey, works for me!

Here is how I have dealt with a pathological liar of 11 years:

1. Never expect the truth
2. Take everything with a grain of salt
3. Actions speak louder than words
4. Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed.