Beautiful thoughts Strong Spirit! I have learned to do a lot of the same things myself and it really does make a difference. I have found that the more you approach people the easier it gets. I have also learned to like myself. I know I am a good person, If others have a problem with me it is their issue, not mine. Strangly enough, much of this attitude is very new for me. Somehow the strength it takes has been something I have gained from this horrible experience with my husband. I can't really explain it but maybe it has something to do with going through one of the worst things I could ever even imagine and I am still standing. Shakily at times, but still standing. After the past several months, the small stuff just doesn't matter anymore. (Just one more reason why I believe this woman of my husband's was brought into our lives to make a difference. Whether we end up together or apart both my husband and I have changed for the better due to this experience).