I proceeded with criminal charges a month ago against my abusive ex who choked and abused me. Since then he has violated the restraining order about 4x and everyone has turned on me. How could the victim be treated so badly? I am saddened by this situation because I cannot sleep at night because I live in fear that he will come for me (since he has already violated the no contact order given both by my school and the courts), but I am more saddened that everyone has abandoned me. Even now hes been suspended from my school and I was harassed last night by all his friends in a party. He was also at this party and did not leave it when I arrived regardless of the restraining order. I cannot live like this I feel as my life is going to end soon because noone can help me. I feel like I am crawling out of my skin someone please help me.
My protection order wasn't taken seriously until I talked to the Victim's Advocate. She was able to explain the situation to law enforcement and once they knew the whole story, I haven't had any problems.
Please do not worry about the loss of friends. True friends will stand by you. Please find a domestic abuse shelter, contact them, and ask what you should do. Google anything to help you. You are in my prayers and do not let anyone tell you who you are but God.
Its true that your real friends will not leave you, and if all your friends have left, then you need new friends.
Get help in your community the women's shelter and victims advocate are both great ideas. You must defend yourself because nobody else will until you force the issue.
There are support groups you can go to, try divorcecare.com to find a group near you.
Do what you have to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. We are here to listen and help you through this!
Good for you for pressing charges. He can not do this to you, so make sure you are making noise wherever you can to get the help you need to keep him away from you. I would also say that if there are situations where you know he or his people may be, than stay away yourself to keep safe. I know it hurts having to do that, but unfortunately in divorce the friends seem to get split up too. In times like this you will find out who yours are, and the rest of them...screw it.
I'm so sorry that this is happening and that you are having to live in fear. No one should have to live like that.