1 month since he left and I still can't motivate myself to move forward
Hello! It has been a month since my x left and I still can not motivate myself to get up and do things. How do I get past this? Also is it normal to have actual physical pain from my belly all the way to my heart? Thanks, Good luck to all
Re: 1 month since he left and I still can't motivate myself to move forward
Everything you are going through is normal, you are the only that can say how long it will last. You have to get up and start doing things for yourself. I can tell you things will change one day, but you need to grieve your time right now. Take care.
Re: 1 month since he left and I still can't motivate myself to move forward
The first month or two is the worst. Or at least it was for me. I couldn't eat and lost over 20 pounds. Trouble sleeping, crying and miserable, but I was able to make it to work and suffer through. It is a slow painful process. Worse than death, I feel, as it was more painful than the loss of my parents. Hang in there, time will help.
Re: 1 month since he left and I still can't motivate myself to move forward
I'm sorry Jasper. This is a grieving process just like a death. We go through the five stages of grief just the same. Unfortunately its just going to take time. I've been right were you are...we all have, or are now. My advice is just to go with waht you are feeling at any given moment. If you need to cry, scream, break something, than go for it. It will help your heart begin to slowly heal itself.
Reach out to friends, family, coworkers if you can, and post here as much as you need to. You need support now even though its tempting to just lie in bed with the covers over your head.
If you really feel like you arent coping well, than counseling or medication can help too. I dont know how you or anyone else feels about meds, and I dont necessarily like to suggest that, but there is a reason they are there. I had to do both as I also couldnt sleep, concentrate on anything, eat, lost alot of weight, and began having panic attacks. I'm just saying that depending on how bad you feel, a counselor or doctor can help you if you need it. Dont be afraid to get help. Doctors see this all the time.
I wish you some peace and hope that your adjustment will begin getting a bit easier soon. I can promise you that it will, although I know you arent there yet.