Hey one thing that I've really done religiously is document every situation in a little black book! I keep a voice recorder for any crazy telephone conversations and I've kept every email from him for the past year. I had them all printed and sent to my lawyer. Even if you can't prove it, the best thing is to somehow document anything you see, hear, or notice...it's the best way. All our arguments and inconsistencies as parents are normally through text...so that's one advantage I have over him. Plus, I'm ALWAYS attempting to do the right thing. I've sat down with my ex's GF to try and get along with her and work out differences (which I initiated), I've gotten my boys their own cell to call Daddy whenever they want, I make sure we normally do exchanges at a neutral location, I have all of us in counseling for a 3rd party to document his retarded behavior. I'm hoping in the end, it will all work out. I lost my temp custody. What my judge said was if you both wanted the 50/50 why would you want to change it?? I had to prove that the negative impact on the children was because of him and not me...and I couldnt' do it then. All I could prove was that the boys had anger problems and we're being affecting by the divorce but not the one week on one week off. Now, boys have gotten into fights, my 9 y/0's grades have dropped and I have witness to state that he is the aggressive one and not me and his agruments cause a lot of headache for the boys. My advice...when you go to Temp custody...make sure you have enough evidence to prove that he is being unfit and why. My thing is he is emotionally abusing our boys and putting them in the middle of all of this. That a one week on one week off only works with two parents who can communicate effectively and we do not! Document document document!!

I haven't had the custody issue (yet anyway), but I still document religiously as well. I write down when he's supposed to come, when he comes, how long their gone (or he's here), when he shows up to the kids' events, etc. If I know I document when they talk to their dad on the phone, as well. I document when he has initiated it and when the kids have initiated it. I write down what the kids tell me, what I see, and behaviors the kids exhibit. I document phone conversations we have and save e-mails as well. If I made $1/minute on documentation, I wouldn't have to file for bankruptcy. It takes a lot of time, but it's well worth it. And, I KNOW Jerk is no where near organized enough to have documentation of any of this...