It took 8mos of being on my own before I began venturing out, and it was odd too. It feels so good though once we can begin allowing ourselves to enjoy and have a good time again. We deserve it!
Glad to hear it Teresa. It is a slow process, but it does come over time. I know that I am finally having moments of pure enjoyment with my girls with my friends and with my new friends I have met at church. And the fact that the girls won't talk to their dad at this point, and it's driving him nuts is something that makes me smile, too. Not nice, I know, but his choice is giving him consequences.
Dear Kathleen.
I wouldn't say I'm moving on so quickly because I met someone. Having someone in your life does help a lot.
Let me tell you what happened. Few weeks ago I was invited to go to my friend's daughter's christening... And here I am sitting in this little church with my son, listening to the pastor. But when his wife started to preach, it seemed as my eyes opened. She was talkig about the familly, and how those people we love the most might hurt us and will never care, but it God still there for us. And at that moment I thought, I have achieved so much without my husband, and with him all I had is disrespect, humiliation, lies and if he really got angry he would hit me.
So looking back I decided I did not want this man back, I am better off without him....
And surprisingly, the following day I met up with this man, and we clicked immediately.
So far it is going quite well at the moment, but I am not hoping for nothing more.
So to answer your question Kathleen, I would say having somebody in your life, who would make you feel good about yourself, is great. But before you meet this man you do need to realise that you are better off without your ex, that you deserve someone better in your life, someone who will RESPECT you. And most important you have to start LOVING YOURSELF, not yourself from the past, but your current self. That's the key to your moving on
