I think Jane just needs to be ignore. Maybe he/she should go back to the kitchen and stay off the computer.
Anyhow I too felt the same when I got married. If I would have listened to all the signs then I would not be here now..but then I wouldn't have the two boy who mean the world to me. My wedding day was miserable, I hated every minute of the planning and the actual day I was physically sick because of his family...