Im not so sure saving the email thing is a good idea. He is accusing me of thins that arent true. He cant prove it but neither can I. I feel like I am digging myself into a trap. And I am s sick of him treating me like the plague and ******** at me because the kids have no desire to talk to him. He sent them Easter cards with money (thought he didnt have any) which he never has done before. My son said "Bt is he trying to kiss butt". And he is right. They see right trough him and he just doesnt get it. I cant put it off much longer. Seriously thinking of saying forget the medical insur and changing it from a legal seperation to the actually thing. I really need t get this over with. Even if he decided to try, Im done. I have been trying for years without any effort on his part. And he keeps lying and I HATE liars. I cant trust him. Whatever trust or feeling was there is gone now. Now that I have been able to clearly see what a cruel and heartless person he is. Oh ladies, I just want this to end like I am sure a lot of you do. I am just so afraid he is going to get away with this and leave me high and dry. I wont be able to move on at all until I know the judges decision. Oh and get this, he actually thinks he is being 'honorable' in the why he is doing things The sad thing is I think he really thinks that.

They talk themselves into whatever delusion they want to believe that makes them feel better about themselves. I know my stbx told me that he was being very fair and that I would live very comfortable. Right. Because I get half the 401K but if I don't roll that into an IRA or something, I have to pay income taxes on it. Most judges now think that that money is for living on and won't order any support for the stupid men that are leaving us after long marriages. So they see how the court sees it and how their nasty attorney sees it, and they think they are doing the right thing. They are all just selfish pr**** looking out for themselves and telling themselves whatever lies makes them feel better.

isnt that the truth! He is accusing me of a bunch of things that I havent the slightest idea where he is getting this from. And all he has ever cared for is himself and yes, he thinks he is being so nice to the family the way he is doing this. Men are mental. Thats all there is to it lol

You still need to keep those emails. He can accuse of murder, but that doesn't mean you are a murder. I keep all the emails from the flea, even if we are just getting in to each other. I have kept them and I know he keeps them too. So just keep saving them.