AMEN to that!!!!!!

I would tell your daughter that you will not discuss what went on between your x and you. That is NObody's business.

How DISRESPECTFUL that she would say that to you, and I would let her know that.

My ex left for a girl who was just married and 15 years younger than he and I. He was building a house for her and her husband so my ex fits this same category of men and I guess his girlfriend couldn't wait for her husband to make a life with...she, like my ex, had to have it all and have it now.

My kids would ask questions because they were young at the time and I just said...We all have to make choices in life and this is what your father has chosen, to be with her, but he still loves you and the two of us will always be here for you. Now that my kids are in their teens they see exactly what their father has done. They still love him though because we did the best we could to be there for them through all this.

Sometimes a mother bites her tongue for the sake of the children and as they get older they see things for themselves. I know your daughter is older, but give her time...the truth usually prevails through the lies. Even if her father tells her different.

Susan

I do not think our husbands left us for better sex. Probably some left for different sex. I think allot of men think the grass is greener on the other side and seek variety.

I find it hard to believe that my ex is happier now. He is divorced again. I guess the red hot romance in his life has fizzled. Oh, too bad. I remember how sad and jealous and hurt I was when he told me to "move on". He seemed so happy then. He had her and they were building this new life together. Which was built on lies and bad credit. Remember that appearances are deceiving and that the OW just got your old problem. He really wasn't that great to begin with. You just thought so because you were committed and wanted it to work.

If you try to figure out why you will go crazy. He may say it was because of sex and try to blame you for everything but it wasn't you. It was him. Sooner than you imagine you will begin to feel better about things, stop thinking and worrying about him and begin to live you new bigger and better life.

I promise you that these men are their own worst enemies and it will come full circle. The mean part of me really enjoys that too.

SAM

Thanks everyone. I just am depressed because of what she said. I do also want to see him pay for what he did to us. I hope the grass is not greenier on the other side. I am trying my hardest to let the jealousy go & become a stronger person.

It is sad to believe that there are women out there that purposely destroy marriages and the husbands don't love their wives and families enough to resist these chicks. My husband (soon to be x) fell into the same trap. I wish he would just disappear but because we have a daughter together that is never going to happen. I could move on with my life easier if I could just leave him behind for good. Children make divorce so much harder because not only do the women suffer but so do the children; they miss out on having a full family. Marriage is a joke in society today, I don't know why I got married I should have known better...

Mine is that way. He LOVES seeing other women naked and has weird sex fantasies that I want no part of. So you arent alone on that one.As for your daughter, shes 20 yrs old. If she treats you like that tell her to get the hell out, go live with her father. My neice was like that when my sister got divorced. Blamed it on my sister because she was a daddy's girl. Try not to take it to heart, but if she keeps it up, give her an ultimatum.

I am so sorry your daughter feels that way. I can't understand it. He left you for someone else. It was his problem, not yours. Your ex sounds an awful lot like mine. So many of these men are just plain stupid and selfish. I have two daughters, 23 and 28 and they are so upset and disgusted with their dad neither one of them will speak to him. It's been almost 4 months. My oldest is expecting a baby in October and is afraid he will show up at the hospital and she doesn't want him there. My youngest is so angry with him that the other night when she had furnace problems, she called a heating dealer to come check it out when her dad works for the gas company and would have done it for free. I told her three times to just call her dad. Each time I got a no. So I let it go. I don't know when or if they will ever want anything to do with him. Maybe one day your daughter will see the light. I hope so.

What I have learned about divorce is.....

It takes two to get married and work at the marriage and....

It takes only one selfish person to destroy a marriage

I know no one is perfect and we all have faults, but when it comes to bigger issues in life like marriage I hate when the comment..."It takes two"... is just thrown around as if nothing...I am not referring to the title of this post...I am referring to people looking at someone who has devoted everything to a marriage and has tried their best and worked their hardest and then this person says...you must have done something as well???.

Maybe it is easier for people to share and pass around the blame. Sure, I am not getting younger and becoming a beauty queen as a get older, I may have been a little to stubborn at times or maybe didn't always understand what he was feeling. There is no perfect marriage, but I know I put my all into everything I do and everything that is important and all it took was one selfish man and his want for a selfish woman to break up a 20 year marriage and family.

That is how much we meant to him. I don't really even blame the other woman that much..."he" made the vows, I gave all I had to "him" and "he" chose to walk away, if not with her then it would have been someone else. THE END: It only took one. I know there are others here who feel this way as well. I also know there are women out there who are just as selfish as men and all it takes is one selfish person to destroy something.

Just my opinion, Susan