I think these men are such masters at manipulation, so good at lieing, and so talented at acting that we didn't see who they really were until it was too late. In my case I don't think there really were warning signs early on. Things happened gradually, really, but when I think about it I don't think he changed, I think he began to let me see who he truly is. I dated him for 3 years. You would have thought that would have been long enough! GEEZ!
Becky, you are so right. My ex played "Mr. Wonderful" for a long time. Then I started to see who he really was and was extremely disappointed He was not "Mr. Wonderful" He was "Mr. Wonderful When Other People Were Around To See It" Big difference.
My new boyfriend doesn't play the rule of "Mr Wonderful" He plays the rule of himself. He is just him, flawed, loving, caring and perfectly human. If I would have know just how deep my ex's flaws were I don't think I would have married him.