Nope. I don't think you are wrong for feeling that way. I don't have kids, but that sounds ridiculously irresponsible to me. He should at least have called or sent a text or just had him home at a decent hour.

I think it is a man thing and your dealing with two of the males here. Tell your son it is his responsiblity to let you know if there are any changes in plans. Yes it should be your ex's but you know how that goes. Calm down and let your ex know that you would like to be advised if there are changes in plans. I have found I win by taking the high ground. It makes them look like complete idiots which of course they are!

After venting here I sent an email to ex that if our son needs things from here to please send him home in the MORNING, that I need to know when he is in my care. Also told my son this.

Could have given my ex the list of reasons I gave here but then I would be accused of treating like he's stupid (which he is but he doesn't and never did like me to treat him like that).

By the way does anyone know what to do if spouse is Thoughtless. I tried REALLY hard to always word things in the nicest manner yet was still told I treated him like he was an idiot. How DO you get your point across?