I can hear the same thing being said at the church that I once found comfort in. Can they ever really be happy, creating a sin, than another to cover that sin and than maybe another one again and again.
Sometimes I found comfort and other times I left crying at the church I attended. The do not quit, do not quit over and over again. I kept trying again and again for my husband. But he already quit, he created a sin and left our children and me.
The church decided for me to not return, all though God loves us and wants us to have a relationship with him not all people want a relationship with you. I am searching for another church now to return to, I have kept a faith in a higher power and now feel strong enough to put trust back into people and return to a church.
There is one thing I know my husband did not, does not love me and I deserve to be loved. And for our children that is something that they need to figure out with their father, all I can do is let them know how much I love them.
Thanks May. I am sorry your church treated you that way. I know how some so called Christians can be so judgemental when we are told not to be. I just started this church in January, after he left me. I have found such love and acceptance here. Hugs and how are you holding up every Sunday. I went to a womens retreat and when one woman asked my husbands name, I lost it. Told the story and never have I been treated with such compassion and love.
This church is a blessing to me. I was lucky to have found these friends to lead me here after losing touch for many years. We had left a previous church because of the behavior of many of the members. I have not attended church for many years because of the kind of treatment you had. I hope you can find a true group of Christians who will comfort you and accept you as I have found.
I got a divorce after 31 years of emotional and physical abuse. Unfortunately, the church damaged me further...www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com
My name was put up on a big screen, followed by the words, "Conduct Unbecoming a child of God." I was called to a meeting of deacons (16 men), not allowed to have a woman with me, and asked:"Are you still having sex with your ex.?!
The x abuser...was never called to a meeting......they voted me out because I allowed him to live in my house for awhile after the divorce....Initially, it was that they wuld "take it before the church" if I didn't agree to reconcile. What did they they I had been trying to do for 31 years!!?? Spiritual abuse: A wound which can never heal.